The Shy Introvert: My Socializing Story
Hi. My name is Mihad and I am shy and also an introvert.
Here it goes. I was invited to a party last week. I went. I immediately dreaded it. Shy introverts usually do. Saying yes to the invitation was getting me out of my comfort zone so this was a positive for me. Within the first 10 seconds, I knew that I was bored (only 3 people speaking a dialect I was not fluent in). Within the first 30 minutes, I was planning my eventual escape. For the next 3 hours I only moved out of my seat three times. Once to talk to a person I didn’t know ( it didn’t last long), once to get food and another to leave. In a nutshell, all I did was stare at people, clap, play with babies and make small talk.
Staring at everyone else talking ( they all knew each other), staring at them getting up and dancing in front of a crowd (without any hesitation) and staring at them while they posed for gorgeous selfies to post later on social media was interesting. Interesting because it told me two things: that I was envious because I did NOT know how to do those things and that they are all very lucky to be so damn confident, unlike me.
Don’t get me wrong, I love a gathering but when it is on my terms. Outside of that, I am very shy, which Susan Cain (2012) calls …”a fear of social judgement and humiliation…”(article) and an introvert, which she defines as a “…preference for less stimulation…” (article).
This is an example of my social gatherings in a nutshell. Always have been shy and always will be shy and an introvert, despite wanting to be a social butterfly. This never stops me from talking to people who seem genuinely interested. We speak about the media, the arts in the elementary classroom and the human mind. I have always loved the arts which I’m assuming is why writing came into my life at 15, my teaching philosophy has always been one of hands-on learning and the arts in the classroom and my poems and quotes always delve deep into the human psyche.
Shy introverts- do you have any tips on how to deal with the awkwardness of social situations?